[mage lang="en" source="flickr"]Genital Warts Mild Cases[/mage]
Normal sex life with genital warts?
I just found out that I have a mild case of genital warts. I started TCA treatment immediately, which was very painful. I had to tell my fiance about this and automatically he thinks I’ve cheated on him but I tried to assure him that this could have been dormant for awhile in my system. I’ve done quite a bit of research on genital warts and HPV and I am aware that I will more than likely have it for life but may never get another outbreak. I also understand that even without the warts, I could be contagious. How am I supposed to have a normal sex life knowing that I could spread this to my partner, even if we use condoms? I will always be afraid of giving the virus to him. How do I deal with this with him? I’ve tried to give him all of the information and facts and right now he’s very angry with me. I hope this won’t destroy our relationship. Any POSITIVE advice would be greatly appreciated. Please keep rude or distasteful comments to yourself. Thanks!
With time you will adjust to living that way, which now is a bigger deal than what is going to be in the future, you will start feeling better after you start placing this current issue where belongs with the corresponding priority in the many issues life has.
What you did excellent was to inform your fiance on exactly how things were doing, it could be expected for him to get angry, that was normal and expected from a human being in order to handle the situation in somehow, yes, he can leave you or stay. If he is mature enough and truly loves you, that person is not going to leave you because of that. For the reason that this will be taken as one issue in the relationship, and this is not going to be the only one, there will be many. The idea of a relationship is to try to remain together and don’t let circumstances to put you guys appart, if this one does, it’s a good thing that happened before marriage.
Best action to take according to the circumstances, is first and before anything, take 100% care of your health and do absolutely everything that the doctor is saying, keep doing research, and attack the problem with knowledge and information.
While that is being done, just describe the situation of what you are doing to your fiance, and let him get angry if he wants, or accept it, but more than that, there is nothing you can do. You haven’t been unloyal to him, you told him that, that’s the limit, you can’t do more, the rest is up to him. If he is equal and is really walking with you in life, will adjust and will keep walking with you, if he is someone who is not attached that well, will leave. What counts, is that you are taking care of your health, ask all those questions to your doctor, ask for support if exists any in that aspect on how to take that kind of issues (i.e. check how many college students are carriers of hpv and you will be surprised), plus, is not known how clean he was before the relationship, so he can’t really judge unless both of you were tested and both were completely loyal as well.
The way to deal this with him, is you create first a limit until what point you want to get, and that is taking care of you, and let him know where you are, that’s it. If he doesn’t take it well or he gets mad, let that be his problem, and if he wants to leave, if he doesn’t get it that you have been honest and you are trying your best, let him know you are not even close to ask him for beg, that if he wants to leave you alone and you deal with your life alone, he can do it, tell him you understand him also, but that you can’t do anything more than what you are doing, which is the truth, always say the truth, it’s always the best choice.
Since he is hearing the truth, It’s in my thought he will understand. But if you were trying to hide something, he will know deep in his heart things aren’t good, and that’s a situation where someone that loves you would leave. A smart man, wouldn’t leave a honest woman he loves for something like that, true love, is also stronger than that too, actually, true love is forever and one of the strongest thing in the world.
Female and Male Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs)
